Be yourself.
Why would people wanna change themselves so much? Sometimes it really makes me wonder.
As the saying goes, 'old habits die hard'. Yes, changing today may make your significant other happy. But relationship should be all about acceptance, shouldn't it? I am simply amazed, sometimes pissed, seeing people behaving like 2 different individuals. And of cause, the significant other was shown only the perfect and very often, the unreal side.
It felt like, being friends with a 2 headed snake. Goodness.
I know love do play a major part in people changing. Seriously, if one change for the better and stay happy, by all means, change. I encourage you. Else, if you feel cranky and change so as to keep your partner, dont even think about it. You're would only be making yourself suffer. As well as torturing the people around you. Sometimes, in life, we ought to spare a thought for others. And do take responsibilty for your actions.
Well, pretty recently, a gf of mine just ended her relationship. Acceptance was the main issue i believe. She tried changing her character in one of her relationships. Resulting in her behaving like she has spilt personality. I did advise her to be herself, as this is what her parents make her to be. Sadly, she didnt heed. Naturally, the relationship failed. The forced change tired her out.
Yes, she learnt from it. In her current relationship, she was true to him. And herself. No spilt personality. No different faces. I was glad. But i guess, relationships are like trial and error. It is a risk. A gamble. Relationships which turned out well would lead to long term committments. Sucky ones would lead to break up la.
What i know is, dont waste each other's time. If you really cant get along, it'ii be better for a seperation. Give both parties a chance to find their true love. As what they always say, true love is sacrificing. I totally agree.
I know the level of hurt from that relationship aint the worst. That's why i am confident that she could pull through. It is just a matter of Time. Moreover, i have been through what she is feeling now. This is one situation that i fully comprehend.
Yeah, she is in isolation now. Not that she wanted to. I guess she needs time to find herself. As well as to straighten out her thoughts. She called me two days back. In which, she hurriedly hang up after a short chat. And i realised this. She aint ready to face or talk to me without crying.
I donno. When i entered Bacholarettehood, it was my dark period. BUT not the end of the world! Yeah, i avoided people. And isolated myself. Didnt talk. Didnt eat much. Slept alot. I know many were concerned and worried. The baybehs would send tons and tons of smses to me. i think they blew their hp bill. =p And yes, i finally came out of my "Camp Isolation" after a few months. Well, a good therapy to recover is to hang out with Singlets. Haha. Yes, my min. We were practically meeting up everyday. =)
I know you will read this entry. So here's what i wanna say to you gal. Don ever think that you're alone ya. You AINT alone. We are all here, alrite? =)
Why would people wanna change themselves so much? Sometimes it really makes me wonder.
As the saying goes, 'old habits die hard'. Yes, changing today may make your significant other happy. But relationship should be all about acceptance, shouldn't it? I am simply amazed, sometimes pissed, seeing people behaving like 2 different individuals. And of cause, the significant other was shown only the perfect and very often, the unreal side.
It felt like, being friends with a 2 headed snake. Goodness.
I know love do play a major part in people changing. Seriously, if one change for the better and stay happy, by all means, change. I encourage you. Else, if you feel cranky and change so as to keep your partner, dont even think about it. You're would only be making yourself suffer. As well as torturing the people around you. Sometimes, in life, we ought to spare a thought for others. And do take responsibilty for your actions.
Well, pretty recently, a gf of mine just ended her relationship. Acceptance was the main issue i believe. She tried changing her character in one of her relationships. Resulting in her behaving like she has spilt personality. I did advise her to be herself, as this is what her parents make her to be. Sadly, she didnt heed. Naturally, the relationship failed. The forced change tired her out.
Yes, she learnt from it. In her current relationship, she was true to him. And herself. No spilt personality. No different faces. I was glad. But i guess, relationships are like trial and error. It is a risk. A gamble. Relationships which turned out well would lead to long term committments. Sucky ones would lead to break up la.
What i know is, dont waste each other's time. If you really cant get along, it'ii be better for a seperation. Give both parties a chance to find their true love. As what they always say, true love is sacrificing. I totally agree.
I know the level of hurt from that relationship aint the worst. That's why i am confident that she could pull through. It is just a matter of Time. Moreover, i have been through what she is feeling now. This is one situation that i fully comprehend.
Yeah, she is in isolation now. Not that she wanted to. I guess she needs time to find herself. As well as to straighten out her thoughts. She called me two days back. In which, she hurriedly hang up after a short chat. And i realised this. She aint ready to face or talk to me without crying.
I donno. When i entered Bacholarettehood, it was my dark period. BUT not the end of the world! Yeah, i avoided people. And isolated myself. Didnt talk. Didnt eat much. Slept alot. I know many were concerned and worried. The baybehs would send tons and tons of smses to me. i think they blew their hp bill. =p And yes, i finally came out of my "Camp Isolation" after a few months. Well, a good therapy to recover is to hang out with Singlets. Haha. Yes, my min. We were practically meeting up everyday. =)
I know you will read this entry. So here's what i wanna say to you gal. Don ever think that you're alone ya. You AINT alone. We are all here, alrite? =)
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